When voices rise, ask short, specific questions that reopen thinking. Try, What risk are you most worried about now, or, What decision would you reverse if you could? Curiosity disarms defensiveness by honoring concerns without agreeing to assumptions or blame.
Pressure tempts people to overcommit, then resent. Practice concise boundaries that protect capacity and trust: I can do X by Friday, not Y today. Boundaries are kindness; they prevent silent buildup and make renegotiation explicit before promises break under stress.